Are the struggles of your fertility journey bringing you down? When doubts hijack your mind, you need to be armed and ready to go to battle with them. Imagine yourself like G.I. Jane strapped with plenty of ammo to blast each doubt into a million bits. You’ve gone through positive thinking boot camp. You’ve seen the worst and nothing can take you down. You’re the toughest mother-to-be this side of the Mississippi (whichever that side that may be) and you’ll be damned if a little blood test or pee stick or another period stands between you and your dreams. The time will come when you need to reload your ammo. Luckily, you have unlimited access to the most powerful supply.
So, G.I. Fertile Myrtle, next time you’re feeling down, pull up your sleeves, reload your bazooka and blast those doubts away. Listen to your Fertility Drill Sergeant (a gentle but firm, reassuring and supportive voice) renew your faith in your fertility, your body, and your self.
1.) Each time a doubt enters your thoughts (i.e. My eggs are rotten. I’m too old. The doctor says I have a 5% chance. I’ll never get what I want. I can’t do this anymore. It’s too depressing. It’s my fault. It’s my partner’s fault), imagine destroying that thought into oblivion. Visualize the doubt as a tangible object like a bubble with words, a black cloud, a rotten tomato, or such. Then blast it! See it explode into a million bits, burn up, and blown away into outer space never to return.
2.) Arm yourself with positive affirmations. Create an antidote to each doubt. For example, if your doubt is “The doctors say I have a 5% chance.” then counter that doubt with, “I am ready and open for the miracle of life to come through me.” After you blast your doubt away, infuse your thoughts with the antidote. Imagine the positive thought marching in heroically. Perhaps the positive antidote rides in on a white horse, or printed on the front of her superhero uniform, or is in the form of a beautiful bouquet. Imagine peaceful blissful surroundings as the antidote message plays in your mind. Imagine your Fertility Drill Sergeant reassuring you with this thought in the most pleasant of voices.
3.) Defense is the best offense. Set booby traps for sneaky doubts. Gather and surround yourself with positive quotes and positive reading materials. Sign up for positive emails and newsletters. Ask your friends to pray for you. Load up your phone and computer with positive messages and images. Write yourself positive sticky notes. Write supportive letters to yourself. Ask your Fertility Drill Sergeant to give you a pep talk each morning upon waking and each night before you sleep. Focus on every silver lining, even the faintest one, with every situation, even the bleakest one. Ask your friends, partners, family to stay positive and cheer you on.
Leave no doubt survivors! They don’t stand a chance against G.I. Fertile Myrtle!
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Please share your doubts and your tactics for overcoming them.
Happy baby making,
Heidi Brockmyre, L.Ac.